15 commandments of dating
15 commandments of dating
The Ten Commandments of Dating, completely revised and updated, offers hope and sanity to singles who are sick and tired of the dating scene.
Revised and updated for a new generation of daters, this guide will help men and women keep their head as they search for the desires of their hearts.The Ten Commandments of Dating isn't more relationship advice; it's relationship common sense.If people keep the ten commandments of dating, their relationships will run more smoothly, they will be protected from the pain of contemporary dating pitfalls, and they'll be on their way to building living, lasting relationships. Thomas Nelson, 2008) A very practical read, obviously, and one that I actually recommend. I personally have hesitations with recommending books like this for a couple reasons (all of which are exhibited in this book).One, they’re often too pragmatic, which can draw too much focus and attention on the “dating” rather than the “commandments” and the “principles” of the dating (it’s the “that which you give attention, you give power” principle).That is a predisposition for any book of this genre.
Sometimes I wish we would focus more on the driving truths of reality, and apply them to practical situations, rather than address practical situations from which we grab at various truths of reality. Second, the Bible is often proof-texted after-the-fact.In other words, the principles are decided upon, and then Scriptures are sought out to substantiate the pre-determined principles.Third, and most honestly, I just like books that go deeper, and practical dating books are not in that category.However, we started using this book for our high school curriculum, crafting and writing material around the basic framework and commandments, and I’ve been thankful for the resource.I believe it can be very helpful for those struggling in the world of dating. While “opposites attract,” the authors point out that those “opposites” are often in the “minor” areas of the relationship.Here are the commandments, with very brief summary notes. Those that don’t risk living the “un-life,” which can be characterized by desperation, dependency, and/or depression. While there’s value in romance, feelings, and emotions, there’s a counter-balance that must be employed, and that’s called “thinking.” They suggest a proper balance between head and heart, avoiding going too fast, involving others in your dating process, and evaluating along the way as helpful steps towards exercising your mind. The areas that can be “compromised,” never in the “major” ones. “Take it slow, to get to know.” COMMANDMENT #5: Thou Shalt Set Clear Boundaries.