Invalidating environment

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Failure, or any deviation from socially defined success, is labeled as resulting from lack of motivation, lack of discipline, not trying hard enough, or the like.

He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools. She would have me read to her while she made dinner. I believe in being mindful of our feelings, and expressing them unless it would be harmful to someone else in which case, find a safe outlet – write, paint, maybe vent to a listening friend.To adapt to this unhealthy and dysfunctional environment, the working relationship between his thoughts and feelings becomes twisted. We read books by smart people – doctors, spiritual leaders, researcher, experts, etc. To learn more about something I know very little about from someone who is more knowledgeable than I? I believe no other person can MAKE you feel a certain way unless you let them.His emotional responses, emotional management, and emotional development will likely be seriously, and perhaps permanently, impaired. - people with more experience who were passing on their knowledge so that we could live a little smarter, maybe a little easier. So I learned many things: Mom’s mantra when we were upset was “ You can choose to be happy or choose to be sad, either way is a choice”. If I’m feeling stressed I try some different relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, turning up the radio super loud and singing in the car or dancing at home, count my blessings, or simply look at the beauty of the world around me.The emotional processes which worked for him as a child may begin to work against him as an adult. of Duke University supports the idea that invalidation leads to mental health problems. I know these things, but sometimes I forget and get carried away by my emotions too.by Marsha Linehan: “An invalidating environment is one in which communication of private experiences is met by erratic, inappropriate, and extreme responses.In other words, the expression of private experiences is not validated; instead, it is often punished and/or trivialized.

The experience of painful emotions, as well as the factors that to the emotional person seem causally related to the emotional distress, are disregarded.

The individual’s interpretations of her own behavior, including the experience of the intents and motivations associated with the behavior, are dismissed. First, it tells the individual that she is wrong in both her description and her analyses of her own experiences, particularly in her views of what is causing her own emotions, beliefs, and actions.

Second, it attributes her experiences to socially unacceptable characteristics of personality traits.

The environment may insist that the individual feels what she says she does not (“You are angry, but you just won’t admit it”), likes or prefers what she says she does not (the proverbial “When she says no, she means yes”), or has done what she said she did not.

Negative emotional expressions may be attributed to traits such as overreactivity, oversensitivity, paranoia, a distorted view of events, or failure to adopt a positive attitude.

Behaviors that have unintended negative consequences for others may be attributed to hostile or manipulative motives.